why did i write this book

the answer may shock you

Three years after I was divorced and still healing, I was sitting at my kitchen table eating dinner when out of nowhere I asked myself the following question. “Why didn’t our marriage last?” As I sat there alone at the table I heard a voice that seemed to resonate from within me. The voice answered and said, “Do you really want to know why your marriage ended in divorce?”

I replied, “Yes I do.” The voice then said, “I know you think it was all on her but let’s start with you. The main reason why your marriage ended in divorce was because you never became a husband you were just a married man.” As I thought about what I heard, I put my fork down and tears began to roll down my face. 

My next question was, “God, what is a husband and will you show me how to become one?” I asked God to reveal what biblical marriage was through His lens. From that day forward, God began to reveal to me principles of marriage from the Bible and other resources that I had never noticed before. My desire for knowledge increased, and I started waking up in the middle of the night just writing what I heard from the deepest part of my soul. I

began reading books on marriage and other relationship-related topics. I listened to sermons and presentations on marriage for hours upon hours. I attended seminars on relational care. For three years I wrote down in a notebook what I was hearing and learning from this inner voice. There was no doubt in my mind that the words that I heard and wrote down, which would eventually become a marriage book were not my own. I believe that a divine authority gave them to me for the sole purpose of helping to save and strengthen marriages and prevent divorce.